How to Protect Your Children During Divorce Mediation

Written by Jonathan Breeden

November 7, 2018

Divorce mediation can be a good option for some couples because it allows them to make important decisions themselves, rather than leaving everything up to a judge. Couples can work together to decide child custody, child support payments, and division of property and assets. It can also save you money and time by avoiding a lengthy process in court. Residents in Wake, Johnston, and Harnett counties who are interested in exploring mediation can contact Breeden Law Office at (919) 661-4970 to schedule a consultation with an experienced divorce lawyer.

How Mediation Affects Your Children

Divorce, whether done in court or with a third-party mediator, may have a significant impact on your children. No matter how you approach the situation, ending your marriage will change your children’s lives. There are ways you can ease the pain and confusion that your divorce may cause them. You may have to navigate tough situations at first, but children are resilient and can adapt to new routines.

Protecting Your Children During a Divorce Mediation

Even if you and your ex are exploring a peaceful divorce through mediation, you may still want to explore options to protect your children from suffering too much. Below are some tips on how to approach your children during your divorce mediation:

Keep them informed.

When parents are going through a divorce, they often decide it is best for the children if they don’t talk about it. They think it will spare their feelings if they don’t disclose the details of the divorce. While your intentions are meant to help your kids, keeping your children in the dark can actually cause harm. Talking to your son(s) and daughter(s) about your divorce can reduce their feelings of anxiety, confusion, and sadness. Encourage them to ask questions, and try to be as open as possible.

Try to keep your cool.

Working with a mediator will help you communicate with your ex, but it doesn’t guarantee that your temper will never flare. If you two need to exchange heated words, be sure to do so in private, so your children don’t have to witness it. Also, never bad-mouth your ex to your children or in front of them. You may have decided not to stay married to them, but they will remain your child’s other parent for life.

Help your children maintain a happy routine.

When going through a divorce, it seems impossible for your kids to believe that your family will ever have a good time again. It’s important that you show your children that their lives can be just as normal as they were before your marriage ended. Get them out of the house and do some activities they will enjoy. It may end up having a positive effect on your mood, as well.

Ask for their input.

While minor children are unable to decide visitation or custody themselves, they can certainly provide their opinion. Allowing them to have a say in matters like where they will live or how they will spend their summer vacations makes them feel as if they are being heard. This is a good way to strengthen your relationship with your kids during a difficult time.

Talk To an Attorney About Divorce Mediation Today

Going through a divorce is incredibly difficult, and trying to be a good parent throughout the process can heap more stress on your plate. Luckily, you don’t have to do everything alone. Working with a lawyer from Breeden Law Office can help keep you on track, so that you may finalize your divorce quickly and start enjoying your new life.

To schedule a consultation of your case, contact us today at (919) 661-4970.


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