According to data from the US Census Bureau, marriage rates from 2012 to 2022 may have held steady, but the divorce rates have actually declined. There are just over 2 million marriages in the US, and a divorce rate of 2.4%. Two surveys reveal why “I do” becomes “I don’t.” While they don’t always agree on the order, there are striking similarities.
Not every marriage ends in divorce, but if you feel you need to make a change, you need a skilled divorce attorney on your side. Contact the Breeden Law Office to schedule your consultation to learn more about your divorce options.
Top Reasons People Chose to Get Divorced
Business Insider collaborated with the University of Denver to survey and create a report on the top reasons couples reported they got divorced. Most of the reasons should be obvious, like cheating, fighting, or a lack of commitment, but some divorcees reported they also had issues with how money was handled or if they felt they were to young to get married in the first place. Each marriage is unique, but knowing you’re unhappy is the first step towards finding a resolution like divorce. Some top reported reasons for divorce include:
Issues with Abuse & Addiction
In the BI divorce report, nearly 35% of divorced couples said that substance abuse – drugs, alcohol, or both – was a factor in getting divorced. For 12% of the respondents, drug addiction was the “final straw” that broke a crumbling marriage.
The Couple Had Financial Struggles
Even if money can’t buy love, it still pays for the necessities. Having to struggle to pay the rent, buy groceries, and pay the power bill are tremendous strains on married couples.
Over 36% of those polled in the University of Denver study admitted that while money directly was not a cause for their marriage to fail, it heavily contributed to the “stress and tension.”
The Couple Got Married Too Young
The University of Denver study found that 45% of divorced couples married at 23 and admitted they were not prepared to spend the rest of their lives with the other person.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the average age of an American bride in 1920 was 21; the average groom was about 24. In 2018, the average age for brides was 27 years. Men averaged about two years older.
There was Too Much Conflict & Lack of Communication
Constant arguing, tension, and stress happen for many reasons. Some married couples lack a sense of equality or balance in their relationship. Whatever the reason, 58% of survey respondents cited conflict as the reason for their marriage’s demise.
Instances of Infidelity or Extramarital Affairs
According to the University of Denver study, infidelity was a “critical factor” in 60% of divorces. Having an affair was also the final deciding factor in filing for divorce, with many couples reporting an extramarital affair marking a turning point in the deterioration of the couple’s relationship.
The Couple Faced a Lack of Commitment
The University of Denver study revealed that overwhelmingly, a lack of commitment in making the marriage work was the number one reason for splitting up. Three-quarters or 75% of respondents said that one or both spouses weren’t willing to commit.
Should Couples Share Common Interests?
A lack of commitment is often the sign of a stagnated relationship. The longer people are married, the greater the tendency to take the other person for granted. Or one person grows and enriches themselves while the other remains the same.
Psychology Today found that a lack of compatibility, differing goals, and simple boredom contributes to many divorces.
FAQs About North Carolina Divorces
How long does the divorce process usually take?
The timeline depends on the complexity of the case, whether it is contested or uncontested, and the court’s schedule. Uncontested divorces can be resolved in a few months, while contested divorces may take a year or longer.
What is the difference between contested and uncontested divorce?
In an uncontested divorce, both spouses agree on major issues such as property division, child custody, and support. Contested divorces arise when there are disputes, requiring court intervention to resolve.
Will I have to go to court?
In many cases, yes, particularly if the divorce is contested. However, if both spouses can reach an agreement through negotiation or mediation, the need for lengthy court appearances can be reduced.
How is property divided in divorce?
Property division depends on state law. In North Carolina, for example, courts follow an equitable distribution standard, which means assets are divided fairly but not always equally. A skilled attorney can help protect your interests.
How does divorce affect children?
Divorce can be emotionally challenging for children, but the impact often depends on how parents handle the process. Minimizing conflict, maintaining stability, and prioritizing the child’s well-being are critical. Talking to your children about a divorce can be tricky, but it’s a necessary step to protect and prepare them.
Can I handle my divorce without a lawyer?
While it’s legally possible to represent yourself, divorce involves complex issues like finances, property, and custody. Having an experienced divorce attorney helps ensure your rights are protected and that you don’t make costly mistakes.
How do I know if it’s time to call a divorce lawyer?
If you are considering divorce, facing abuse, struggling with child custody disputes, or simply unsure of your legal options, it’s wise to consult an attorney. An initial consultation can help you understand your rights and next steps.
When It’s Over, Talk to a Divorce Attorney
No matter the reason for a marriage’s failure, working with an experienced divorce attorney can make things easier.
The Breeden Law Office has helped countless individuals in North Carolina achieve favorable outcomes for the division of marital property, custody, and child support. We understand the emotional and financial effects of divorce on couples and their children. A divorce attorney protects your rights and ensures a smooth transition from marriage to dissolution.
Call the Breeden Law Office Today
Attorney Jonathan Breeden dedicates his career to helping individuals and families facing family law issues. He serves clients in Johnston, Harnett, and Wake Counties.
If you have questions or need help from a North Carolina divorce lawyer, call 919-374-8652 today.
