What to Do When Your Husband Wants a Divorce?

Written by Jonathan Breeden

March 15, 2023

Sometimes marriages end unexpectedly. One partner may want a divorce, while the other wants to work things out. The goal should be to maintain a healthy life with or without your spouse. If your husband wants a divorce, you should consider their reasons and determine what is best for you in the long run. The goal should be to get back to equal footing and ensure a fair and equitable split of assets, financials, and other issues.

Why Are They Seeking a Divorce?

North Carolina is a no-fault divorce state. That means that your husband is not required to state a reason for seeking the divorce. They can simply say that the marriage is broken and cannot be fixed.

However, your spouse could be seeking a divorce for any of the following grounds, which are recognized as grounds for divorce from bed and board (like a legal separation):

  • Incurable insanity
  • Abandonment of the family
  • Maliciously forcing the other spouse out of the house
  • Cruel treatment that endangers the other’s life
  • Indignities that make life intolerable
  • Excessive use or addiction to drugs and/or alcohol
  • Adultery or infidelity

What Happens in a Divorce?

In the process of a divorce, you and your partner will need to make some decisions. Even if you don’t want the separation, you should consider negotiating the terms of your divorce. Otherwise, the court will decide the issues for you, and the outcome may not be in your best interests.

Some of the issues that must be considered and decided in a divorce agreement include:

How to Prepare for a Divorce

If your husband asks for a divorce, you might ask them to work through your problems. However, you should take steps to prepare for a divorce anyway. Some of the steps you can take to make things easier on yourself include:

  • Developing a parenting plan
  • Getting assets valuated
  • Preparing a list of assets for division
  • Gathering financial data
  • Making a list of retirement accounts
  • Obtaining proof of separate property vs. marital property

How Can an Attorney Help Me?

It’s best to talk to a divorce attorney immediately if your husband asks for the termination of your union. Your attorney will know how to gather evidence to support your case. They can also provide you with the necessary resources to prepare legal documents and move forward with life.

An experienced attorney will help guide you through the legal process while keeping you updated about what is happening along the way. Your divorce may be unexpected, but the process does not have to be.

Call Breeden Law for Help with Your Divorce

The Breeden Law Office has experienced divorce lawyers who will compassionately listen to your story and help you understand your options. Even if you don’t want a divorce, we can guide you through the situation to achieve a beneficial resolution.

Call us today at (919) 661-4970 or use our online contact form to schedule a consultation.


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